People with the ESFP personality type (Entertainers) are social, fun-loving, free-spirited individuals who live life in the moment and squeeze every little bit of excitement from everything. Naturally, they don’t spare any of this freshness and energy when dating. For ESFP personalities, relationships aren’t about slowly building foundations for the future or planning out a life – they are bubbling, unpredictable things to be enjoyed for as long as there’s enjoyment to be had.

The Spark of Love

Interestingly, ESFPs tend to regard falling in love as the best part of a relationship. They revel most in the stages that involve intense emotions, passion, discovery, and excitement. As a result, they might strive to keep these sparks lit longer than normal by investing more in the flavorful aspects of their relationship.

Because of this investment in liveliness and joy, relationships with ESFPs are simply unforgettable. People with this personality type always have some new and exciting activity up their sleeve, and they genuinely enjoy spending each moment with their partner. ESFPs enjoy physical intimacy immensely, and they prove themselves affectionate, inquisitive, and open-minded, loving to share with willing and reciprocative partners.

Conversation with ESFPs is similar, focusing on fun, sometimes quirky subjects rather than deep, soul-searching expressions. The past and the future, the sciences and politics, and long-term plans and commitments are all less likely to grip ESFP personalities than brighter, more tangible things. They slow things down and add too much weight to their freewheeling style.

The Rise of Conflict

Emotionally oriented and sensitive, people with the ESFP personality type often respond poorly to outside “suggestions” on how to manage their love lives. They respond even worse if criticisms come from their partner, and trying to take emotions out of the picture by telling them to “not take this personally” isn’t helpful either. Slowing down and handling these situations better is a growth area for ESFPs.

On the other hand, the issue can be a lack of any criticism at all. ESFP personalities value social input a lot and are almost as affected by their friends’ opinions of their dating partner as their own. Since they are attracted to people who share their attitudes, this can leave them in an echo chamber that only tells them what they want to hear, reinforcing counterproductive behaviors and attitudes.

A Joyful Heart

All of these tendencies can present a challenge for people with this personality type later on. ESFPs’ tendency to avoid promises and commitments sabotages important long-term goals. Building real relationships takes time and conscious effort.

But ESFPs are incredibly likable people who enjoy life’s small pleasures. Enthusiastic and affectionate, with a pure and down-to-earth love that just takes things at face value, ESFPs ultimately take the time to find someone who they truly enjoy being with every day rather than settling too soon for stability over happiness.