People with the ISTJ personality type (Logisticians) are often very comfortable taking on the role of being a parent and the responsibilities that come with it. ISTJ personalities’ sense of discipline and honor blend well with a tradition that has been in place since time immemorial: to raise one’s children to be respected, contributing members of a home and society at large. As with most commitments, these personalities do not take being a parent lightly and will make it their work to ensure that this tradition is upheld to the highest standard.

This doesn’t always come easily for their children though, as ISTJs tend to be strict, with high standards and expectations. These parents establish stable, clearly structured environments for their children, always with an eye on helping them to develop a sense of place in society and to fulfill useful roles.

All this loyalty, devotion, and structure can fall short, though, when ISTJs’ children need the warmth of emotional support. While people with this personality type can be sensitive in their own way toward those they care about, it’s hard for children to recognize this tough love for the love that it is. Often these personalities need to work on developing more empathy and understanding as their children grow and evolve throughout the different stages of their lives. Specifically, ISTJs might try to strike a better balance between rational purpose and the more ethereal sense of emotional well-being.

Leading by Principle

ISTJ parents are strongly principled, valuing patience and hard work, qualities that children often struggle with. Nevertheless, their children are expected to meet these standards and share these values for their own good. This approach often bears its fruit in the long run, but people with this personality type must keep in mind that their approach creates natural barriers and distance that often leaves their children wondering if they’re on the same team.

Taken too far or with mutual stubbornness, this may even set in as a permanent state in the relationship, something that both ISTJ parents and their children ultimately regret. It is best for them to embrace and hold to their own values – while also recognizing that each person has their own goals – and to meet their children halfway in attaining theirs. Combining their natural devotion and purpose with this flexibility in support of their children’s own vision leads to a sense of mutual respect and accomplishment that any ISTJ parent would be proud of.